Porn – The Unappreciated Educator

My mum taught me all the basics of ‘womanly’ life, cooking, cleaning, even chasing after kids I’m yet to have, but she never taught me how to ride a dick. There are certain things our parents will never teach us, and here lies the problem.

When it comes to sex, we’re expected to learn on the job. Climb on top and rock his world, bend over and bounce that ass back. The first time a guy flipped me over to ride his dick I wasn’t even sure what I was supposed to be doing. Sit there? Rock back and forth? Maybe I should just smile and start a conversation? That was the beginning of my sexual learning curve.

Guys watch porn from the moment they can get online without adult content lock. That’s where they learn to stroke, find your spot, suck your tits, and even then some are still shit. Have you leaving the morning after thinking what a waste of my time and NC40, so imagine how much worse it could be. Girls never feel that pressure to research. We are raised to assume during sex we just lay there, look pretty and take that dick. It’s once I started listening to slow jams in my late teens that I realised I might have to do a bit more than just my hair and make-up.

Porn isn’t just a means of jerking off. It teaches us what’s hot, what’s not, new shit we didn’t know we wanted to try, let alone thought we would enjoy. It forces us to push the boundaries that we didn’t even think existed in the confines of our sexual encounters.

I can watch porn any time and feel no way about it because I’m making use of a FREE adult educational tool. However, if I preferred to stay at home and watch porn instead of going out or having actual sex, then clearly I’d have issues. Porn only becomes a problem when it’s obsessive and fucks up our ability to have meaningful relationships with real people. Not watching any porn at all, is like wanting to get a 1st class honours in our degree but refusing to revise. Ignorance is not bliss.

Sex is one of the only free pleasures we get in life. So I’ll be damned if I don’t make use of every form I like to the fullest and I hope you do the same. So if you’re not a porn watcher, turn on private browsing and start streaming. Go on, deep down you know you want to.

Sapphire

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9 comments

  1. I kinda disagree. Isn’ t the problem that porn is actually artificial sex in a sense? I don’t think I want a guy to pound me like they do in most porn movies…porn isn’t really realistic from what i understand of it (I haven’t had sex , so this is just what I’ve been told), so how much of a good teacher is it really?

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    1. Most importantly, we all know for sure where the clit is and see many examples of how to stimulate it. Porn is absolutely educational.

      Porn can be artificial, but there is great porn out there, and a lot of it in this day and age, where you see people enjoying sex with each other, and how they enjoy it with each other. Without that exposure (education), we’d all be stuck in the missionary position and crying afterwards out of shame.

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    2. I don’t see how sex could be artificial if there’s a real penis inserting a real vagina. I’ve seen my first porn probably at the age of 5. As a child, I didn’t understand what it was but there was a good feeling attached to it. Maybe because it was different or because the people involved were experiencing ultimate pleasure. I’ve learned my sex moves from tv programs and porn. Later in my teen years, I started to watch the sensual porn, I guess I craved that affection. I learned what was done to get the man and the woman going. There’s a vast amount of different types of porn, and watching it more than occasionally can become a bit redundant, as every flick needs to incorporate its oral sex, missionary, doggy styles, and face shots. However, there are a few times when you notice new techniques that can be real gems. I think I’ve viewed it so much that any little thing I see that’s new is extrememly noticable, and noted for my personal use. This was a great post.

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  2. Your posts are thought-provoking to me.

    I just responded to another of your posts about how men learn so much from pornography, and that sexual education, for pleasure, not the mechanics, is sorely lacking among women. The truth is that women consume porn much less than men.

    The great question is whether that has to do with a stigma implanted in women, generally, that good girls don’t look at dirty videos. Does it stem from fear of pregnancy? Women, after all, risk a lot more, even in the age of the pill.

    Or is it that porn, as it exists, is for male consumption? Does the visual nature of porn appeal to men? Does there have to be a wholly different type of porn for women? I tend to believe this, especially in my experience where my voice and speech turns women onto me; it’s more about communication. And we all know women love to communicate! 😉

    Now that porn is so easily available via the internet, are younger women consuming it more? I’d love to know. They probably are, but I doubt as much as males consume it, and I doubt women will ever consume porn at that level.

    Do women buy more erotic audio books? If so, I’d be one rich motherfucker if I made one, and in like Flynn, up to my eyeballs in poontang. If only I weren’t so lazy.

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  3. I was having this conversation just last night, I recently started watching porn again and it has been inspiration. Intimacy is cultivated spirituality with connectivity. But the physicality of sex, there is no better educator than porn. No sooner than I began watching an ad flashed up displaying moves I had never thought to try. Bedroom play is all about being innovative, so watching new positions and putting your own spin on it is paramount. I was asking my group last night if they watched porn for educational purposes or pleasure. Most said pleasure, but there is something about finding a golden standard in porn and aspiring to surpass it, it really keeps you on your toes and from becoming stagnant.

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    1. you get my drift! thats what it should be used for to ignite your imagination at all the possibilities you’ve yet to explore with your partner or whoever. but some just don’t understand how that can be done

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